Tantra is gaining more interest among couples who wish for a healthier or spicyer sex life. Let me tell you from the start that this is not for everyone - it takes a lot of patience and you just need to have a somewhat calm life style or personality. Tantric sex involves opening new doors in sex life, discovering higher satisfaction possibilities and for this to happen you need to really focus and have patience. This is not a good idea for those of you who are usually looking for a quickie.
Relax
Tantra means prolonging the sexual encounter and re-directing the sexual energies through the body so that all sensations felt during sex could be amplified. This sexual practice involves both physical and spiritual merging of the two partners.
The most important variable in tantra is relaxation and one of the methods to really get relaxed is to take a long, hot bath with your lover. This way you can prepare yourselves to make love like two gods - this is what Tantra also simbolizes, the man and the woman recreating the Universe like Shiva and Shakti.
Admire each other's bodies, share food as fish and honey prior to sex, as a relaxing foreplay. Fish and honey are recommended because they simbolize desire and sex in Tantric sex, drink wine, listen to soft music, burn some candles and incense. All these help relaxing, arousing and creating a relaxed, tantric atmosphere.
Breathing
Breathe slowly and rhythmicly while synchronizing your breaths after your lover's, this way delaying the climax. Fast, superficial breathing only makes you finish earlier, which is not the point of Tantric sex, that's why more experienced men last longer... they're more relaxed.
Kegel Exercises
Exercise your pubococcygeus muscle so that you have perfect control over it. The muscle is very important for both partners: it helps women keep their vagina tight and in shape, while it also prevents premature ejaculation for men and make them last a lot longer.
Learn to master all these and move on to the next lessons of Tantric sex. As I said before, this is not for everyone; it take a certain life style to master and to have enough patience and dedication to go through with it.
